To help explain some of the back story:
1. What does "transgender" mean? Different people have different definitions for this
word. I'll tell you what it means for me. I was born with female body
parts, but have always felt I should be male. At age 22, I began the
process of transitioning from female to male in order to be more
comfortable. I started taking testosterone in order to lower my voice,
grow facial hair, and have a more masculine distribution of body fat. I
legally changed my first name. One year later I had male chest
contouring surgery to remove some of my breast tissue in order to create
a male-appearing chest. I chose not to have any "bottom" surgery.
2. If you changed your sex, then how could you get pregnant? Since I didn't have any bottom surgery (hysterectomy/phalloplasty), I retained my capacity to
bear children. To become pregnant, I went off the testosterone I'd been
taking and waited for my cycles to return. Voila.
3. Why didn't you want "bottom" surgery? It is terribly expensive, requires a lengthy recovery, involves considerable health risks, and surgical phalloplasty (creating a phallus) techniques are not yet very refined.
4. How did you know that getting pregnant would be safe for the baby after your transition? See the post, "Hormones."
5. Did you need fertility treatments to get pregnant? Nope! Again, see the post, "Hormones."
6. How do you think of yourself in terms of sexuality? Gay, transgender, male.
7. Do you prefer the term "chestfeeding" instead of "breastfeeding"? I use and am ok with saying chestfeeding, breastfeeding, or nursing. Both men and women have breast tissue and can, unfortunately, get breast cancer. We all have nipples and breasts, to a certain extent. Furthermore, breastfeeding is not about sex - it is about feeding a baby. It doesn't make me feel feminine or female to feed Jacob. I do use the term nursing most frequently though.
All that said, some trans men are uncomfortable with the term "breastfeeding" for reasons to do with gender dysphoria. When writing about trans men in general, I always use "chestfeeding" or "nursing" because I feel these terms are the most broadly inclusive and acceptable.
8. Why have you changed the names on the blog? I have decided to be a queer and breastfeeding activist, and that is my choice. I believe it is also my responsibility as a parent, however, to protect my son's privacy. We try to live with honesty and integrity - all our friends and family know that I am transgender and that I birthed our baby - but the internet is a whole different story. I do not want my writing to follow my child around for the rest of his life. He must be allowed to make his own choices. I use the pseudonyms "Jacob" for my son and "Ian" for my partner. My real name is indeed Trevor.
9. What on earth is this at-breast supplementer thing that you're always talking about? For a detailed explanation on how to make and use a supplementer, see the post "Using an at-chest supplementer." Here's a brief explanation: I make a bit of breast milk for Jacob, but due to my chest surgery, I am not able to produce all the milk he needs. This is why I use the supplementer. It consists of a bottle containing supplement (in our case, donated breast milk) and a long, very narrow tube. This tube sits in the supplement and is threaded up through the bottle nipple. When I latch Jacob on to my own nipple, I place the tube right next to my nipple so that his mouth goes around both food sources at once. This way, when he sucks he draws some supplement up the tube at the same time as getting all the food I'm capable of making.
I want to say, this blog is amazing and fascinating. I have a trans friend (FTM like you) , but he's planning on either not having kids or having their partners (female) carry the baby and breastfeed. :)ReplyDelete
Keep on keepin' on!!! I'm subscribing if you don't mind because you are amazing.
erm PARTNER. I can't spell tonight!Delete
As a fellow FtM... how long were you undergoing hormone therapy... I have read that after a certain amount of time your reproductive organs begin to atrophy making pregnancy impossible even with the cessation of Testosterone therapy.ReplyDelete
I wasn't on T all that long - only two years - but I've heard of people taking it for as long as 8 years and then being able to become pregnant. I'm guessing that there is no hard and fast rule on this. If you are hoping to carry a child, I wish you the best of luck!Delete
Some people have been on testosterone 10-15 years and have successfully gotten pregnantDelete
Fascinating! And thank you for your courage to share your ongoing story. I wish you the best!ReplyDelete
Can you talk about what it was like to be pregnant? How did it affect your emotions as well as identity?
I hope you're considering the idea of collaborating with other transgender folk to create a parenting guide. What a unique trail you are blazing. Am sure others would be grateful for the wisdom you glean along the way.
I just realized you may have already written about pregnancy earlier in your blog. Will scope.ReplyDelete
Hi there, I'm a fellow transman but way too young to really know if I want to have kids. However, I DO know that if I ever do want to birth my own kids, I want them to have breast milk, preferably my own. I'd been under the impression top surgery made that impossible until I stumbled across this blog. I'm pretty big up top so I would really love to get surgery, but not at the expense of my kids' health. Which kind of top surgery did you have that enables you to still produce milk presently?ReplyDelete
Hi there, sorry for my slow response to your question. I'm actually working on an article on this topic right now, but I'll give you a sneak preview. I was pretty small-chested before my surgery, so I was able to go with the concentric-circle surgical technique (Dr. Bowman in Vancouver). This style involves an incision around the areola (as opposed to the double incision with nipple grafts for larger-chested guys). I produce some milk but not enough to meet my baby's nutritional needs, so I supplement him using at an-breast supplementer and donated human milk. If you have a double incision style surgery, you might still be able to breastfeed if there is enough tissue remaining for your baby to latch. Remember that there is more to breastfeeding/chestfeeding than just milk - the relationship is incredibly important and beneficial too. This is definitely something to discuss in a consult with your surgeon, although many surgeons are not knowledgable about the effects of surgery on latch and milk production so it can be tricky.Delete
This is such a great blog! Breastfeeding is something I've thought about but assumed that it wasn't possible after chest surgery, so it's really neat to hear that it was for you. I was wondering if you are able to take testosterone while nursing or if that affects the breast milk or lactation?ReplyDelete
Hi! So glad you like the blog. I've been told that taking testosterone while breastfeeding would cause a significant decrease in milk supply. It would interfere with the hormones that are necessary for lactation. However, it would not prevent one from using at at-chest supplementer and having a breastfeeding relationship. Hope that helps!Delete
Hi, I'm a 43 year old (divorced) mum of a teenager (who is agender), and I've always felt uncomfortable in my body. Puberty was horrible - I felt like it shouldn't be happening to me, I had to admit that I was female. I'm really glad I had the chance to have a child, but now that I'm divorced I really want to finally be who I am and am considering transgender ftm surgery. Do you have any advice for me? My child is extremely supportive (thank goodness!). I just feel like I'm a little old to have finally made this decision, but I can't imagine that being the real me will make me unhappy...ReplyDelete
I don't think anyone is ever too old to transition. You might wish you had done it sooner but if it makes you happier and more comfortable in your own skin, don't hold back! Good luck to you!!Delete
This blog has more information than any surgeon would even hint at. No one even told me about at-breast feeders!ReplyDelete
I remain nervous about how my intersex hormones might effect my own pregnancy, but your story has given me much hope in at least breastfeeding like I'd wanted to :3
I'm so happy that you're finding the blog helpful! Thanks for reading :) I wish you the best of luck with your own pregnancy journey. Please feel free to join the Facebook community that I started (link below). We welcome intersex people. It can be so helpful to be able to talk with others and find support. We work hard to maintain a safe space for everyone. https://www.facebook.com/groups/TransReproductiveSupport/Delete
I was hoping to get in contact with you! I am helping an organization make a survey and was hoping to use the correct gender inclusive terms! And i was hoping you could help ensure I am using them correctly. It is for 2 question in the survey. please contact me at solmundt@myumanitoba, I would love your help!
شركة البيوت للخدمات المنزلية أعلى مستويات الأمان لمنزلكReplyDelete
كرّست شركة البيوت للخدمات المنزلية جهودها لتوفير أعلى مستويات الراحة والأمان في منزلك، والذي يحتاج إلى مزيد من العناية والاهتمام بكثير من التفاصيل ليوفر لقاطنيه مقومات الأمان والرفاهية، ويمنح أفراد الأسرة مزيدا من الشعور بالراحة والسكينة، ويجنبهم مواجهة الكثير من المشاكل المنزلية التي قد يتعرضون لحدوثها.
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شركة عزل فوم بالرياض
شركة كشف تسربات المياه بالرياض
شركة نقل اثاث بالرياض
كشف تسربات المياه
شركة رش مبيدات بالرياض
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شركة تخزين عفش بالرياض
شركة تخزين اثاث بالرياض
شركة تنظيف منازل بالرياض
شركة عزل فوم بالرياض
عزل فوم بالرياض
نقل اثاث بالرياضReplyDelete
والتي توفر لك فريق عمل متكاملًا وعلى أعلى مستوى لكل المهام المنزلية التي قد تخطر على بالك مثل:
خدمات نقل عفش
حيث تهتم شركة ضفاف الخليج للخدمات المنزلية
شركة نقل اثاث بالرياض
المنزل في أماكن مناسبة وعدم تعرضه للأتربة أو اتِّساخه بالبقع أو حتى تآكله مهما طالت مدة عملية التخزين عفش.. مع توفير شبكة نقل كاملة تعمل على مدار أربع وعشرين ساعة لنقل اثاث منزلك إلى أي مكان تريده وفي الوقت الذي تحدده.
خدمات رش مبيدات
مع مشارفة فصل الشتاء على الانتهاء واقتراب موعد فصلي الربيع يليه الصيف تبدأ الحشرات المنزلية في التوغل والانتشار داخل منزلك بحثًا عن طعام وذلك بعد انقضاء فترة البيات الشتوي التي تقوم بها؛ مما يؤثر بشكل سلبي على كافة أفراد المنزل ويضعهم في حيرة أمام سلسلة لا تنتهي من الخيارات المتاحة في الأسواق مكافحة الحشرات المنزلية والتخلص منها.. ولكن مع شركة ضفاف الخليج للخدمات المنزلية يُوجد قسم خاص شركة رش مبيدات بالرياض يقوم بحل تلك المشكلة تمامًا ودون أن يسبب أي إزعاج من أي نوع لأفراد الأسرة.
خدمات خطوط المياه
وفقًا لإحصاءات فريق الشركة فإن مشاكل كشف تسربات المياه من أنابيب النقل أو انسدادها هي من أكثر المشاكل التي يعاني منها سكان مدينة الرياض.. فالتعامل مع شبكات نقل المياه يجب أن يتم بحرص وبدقة شديدين، ولذلك تسعى شركة ضفاف الخليج للخدمات المنزلية
شركة عزل مائي بالرياض
شركة كشف تسربات المياه بالرياض
I am a RN IBCLC, thank you for providing the community with this valuable information.ReplyDelete